In a community which puts relationships at the center — we learn and growth through our relationships — it’s not surprising that we bring into the community our ways of functioning in relationships elsewhere, including in our families. People come from families, are within family systems, and replicate many behaviors (often unthinkingly) from those families. People have habitual ways of dealing with conflict and anxiety, and those affect their behavior when they come to the Ethical Society, too.
Reflecting on the ways in which we are related, and bring our emotional habits with us to our Ethical Societies, can shed a lot of light on conflict, on what might be called difficult behavior, on behavior in general.
More about applying systems theory to our Ethical Societies — seeing them, as one of the models for understanding, as emotional systems of real people.